At DMNews she applies the Inner/Outer/Why framework to everyday communication dilemmas and long-running conflicts. Wesley ...

Tension: We crave honesty and respect in our relationships, yet we often doubt ourselves when we’re manipulated. Noise: Conventional “trust your gut” advice oversimplifies a complex power ...

This is part of The Direct Message series. Learn the methodology behind it here. There’s a particular kind of adulthood that never really begins. Outwardly, you’re competent. Capable. High-functioning ...

I write this with urgency. We are living through a slow-motion cognitive collapse – a collapse of our shared sense-making in the face of AI-generated confusion and media dysfunction. Every day brings ...

This article follows the Direct Message methodology, designed to cut through the noise and reveal the deeper truths behind the stories we live.

This article follows the Direct Message methodology, designed to cut through the noise and reveal the deeper truths behind the stories we live. Parents often imagine the day their children become ...

Tension: Kindness and control can wear the same smile; noticing the difference means trusting gut signals over social politeness. Noise: Feel-good culture urges endless empathy, downplaying ...

Tension: True mental sophistication thrives on curiosity and nuance, yet social reward systems celebrate quick takes and loud certainty. Noise: Viral “smart hacks” equate intellect with trivia scores ...

This article follows the Direct Message methodology, designed to cut through the noise and reveal the deeper truths behind the stories we live.

It’s easy to remember the version of myself that used to unravel quietly. Not publicly, not in spectacular fits—but in smaller, subtler abandonments. I didn’t throw things. I disappeared. I’d mute ...